Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
I felt a lump in my throat watching the video of the Baltimore mother Toya Graham take charge and pull her sixteen-year old son from the mayhem in the streets where teens were throwing rocks at the police.
I was cheering this woman on because she didn’t care who was watching, she was taking on the system that continually wants to interfere in how people raise their children.
Toya was so passionate and fierce as she slapped her son across the head and began pushing him away from danger and his possible injury or death.
Yes! I heard myself scream within my head. This is what black mothers know about raising our children and grandchildren.
People need to be aware that God has given us permission to raise a child in the right way. And that entails not sparing the rod to protect our children from their own naïve and reckless decisions.
When my youngest daughter attended a private daycare center, I remember her coming home one evening and sharing that one of the children had done something awful to another child. She being very concerned about the incident proceeded to tell me that because this child was acting up so badly; the teacher put the child in the “time out corner. ”
Those three words, “time out corner, ” was the first time I had ever heard of such a thing.
Later on when my two older daughters married and had their children, the time out corner had become a mainstay in the discipline of children who exhibited bad behavior.
Of course, I come from the old school that believes that if you spare the rod you will spoil a child. And when a parent spares the rod and gives their child a reward with things they don’t deserve when they step out of line. That child usually turns out to be arrogant and disrespectful to the parent.
The time out corner doesn’t put any type of fear into a child. And when I speak of fear, I mean fear of authority and also fear of the consequences as it relates to their parents.
Where the government system has gone wrong is that they have come into the homes of Americans and declared war on our parenting skills. If you need to give your child a spanking, suddenly, the state and local authorities stand ready to put you in jail and add your name to a registry that declares you to be an abusive parent.
Yes, the Baltimore mother was in her right to chastise her son to spare his life.
It is just sad to know that some watching this video will want to put Toya’s son in the time out corner and place her in jail.
Well, to you who want to do so…I say, time out corner be damned!
Stop sparing the rod, so that we can save our children!
Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24 (NIV)
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