Material Love

Cast me not off in the time of old age; forsake me not when my strength faileth. Psalm 71:9

One day before the official start of the winter holidays and there will be more elder abuse taking place and most people will ignore it, deny it or be the abuser themselves.

This type of elderly abuse I call, material love.

Material love is oftentimes found in the immediate family. For instance, an adult child might be verbally or physically abusive to an elderly parent and they will make financial demands from the victim, such as, exploiting them emotionally with buying them gifts or toys for their children.

However, the aging person will do everything that they can to quiet their abuser by going out of their way to appease the one who hurts them the most (emotionally or physically).

And this material love is so much more horrendous right around the time of Christmas when true love should be shown, like Christ shows us. But it doesn’t happen that way.

Normally, the abused elderly person will go into debt (using credit cards or co-signing for loans). While the abuser will hold some past transgression(s) over that person’s head…for instance, if a parent wasn’t around when the child was young…then, when the child reaches adulthood, if they haven’t forgiven that parent, they will pull out their “you owe me” card for the rest of that person’s life.

I am speaking about material love because I continue to witness how a population of aging people who are residing in nursing homes or neglected and/or abandoned to live on their own are the most vulnerable in our society and this population is increasing on a yearly basis.

Earlier this week, as I waited for my neighbor to do her Christmas shopping, I found a chair out of way of the hustle and bustle of wheeling seniors pushing their shopping carts filled with the store’s pre-Black Friday’s discount bargains (just quoting the store’s own advertisement).

It then dawn on me that a number of these seniors are probably looking forward to the holidays just so that they can receive a smile, hug or a kiss and for some, to be shown some love.

Never mind that a number of seniors might be on a fixed-income. For them, if they have to be loved by buying love, that’s exactly what they will do.

It’s material love that no one should have to endure.

May you all richly enjoy the bountiful of God’s blessings this Thanksgiving and give Him thanks for the great things He still does for us (even though we don’t deserve it.) His grace and mercy endures forevermore!

Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. Deuteronomy 5:16

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