Who Is My Friend?


Have you asked yourself this question, who is my friend?

Yesterday, our senior pastor gave his last sermon in the church. God has plans for him and his family. As he was receiving his much deserved expression of love, thankfulness and accolades, it made me cringe a bit in my pew to think of some members of the congregation who was against him.

Wasn’t this man of God, the same pastor, who was racked over the coals during church meetings, shown disrespect and abandoned by his “so-called” friends at the end? Yet, my pastor did not utter a mumbling word…he took a page from Jesus book. He stayed humble and showed love.

In the past couple of months, I have started re-evaluating my friendships. Like most people, I want to be able to think that the people who I enact with on a regular basis are at least considered to be my friends and vice-versa.

But, I am going to be honest with myself and recognize the fact that everybody I know can’t be my friend.

I guess you might be wondering, then who is my friend?

Jesus. However, I don’t always treat Him like the friend He is to me.

Friends should be precious. Like rare gems and shouldn’t be treated like a causal relationship having yet to be ruled out for the next best thing.

Friendships shouldn’t even be a one-sided relationship where One Person (Jesus) is giving more than the other (or taking more from the other-that would be “us Christians”).

Trust is very important to me, especially, with those I believe to be friends with.

I am a Christian but Christian friendships can be more difficult than one can imagine.

If you are a believer, perhaps you may have come across the fact that more than often, the world friendships are more genuine than those who walk in the House of God with you.

You see, the world is going to be the world but some Christians fake it to they break ya!

We humans are always looking to attach ourselves with like-minded people. Some of us even like the fact that these friendships will keep us in our comfort zone.

However, there is a danger with friendships that don’t challenge you to be more than you can be.

Think about it, do you have friends who would rather agree with you than confront you when you are wrong or are heading in the wrong direction?

I will not forget when I was growing up and a few of my “childhood friends” would turn on me. I would run home and cry to my grandmother. My grandmother wasn’t being cold and indifferent when she gave me this sound advice, “child, all you need is two or three friends…no more, no less. ”

A man of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24

I thought at the time this was awful advice. After all, I wanted friends. Having two or three friends was insufficient.

But as I am getting older, I now know what my grandmother was only trying to teach me.

And this is exactly what I’m found to be true.

A friend will like you for who you are. A friend is there even when you don’t speak to them for days, weeks or months. A friend will want you to know the truth and still be with you. A friend will be with you in the beginning, middle and end.

A longtime friend sent this poem to me yesterday (Sunday) and it resonated what Jesus must have felt when His friends abandoned Him in His last hours on earth.

God Calling
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October 26 – Deserters

You must believe utterly. My Love can bear nothing less. I am so often “wounded in the house of My friends.” Do you think the spitting and scorn of My enemies, the mocking and reviling hurt me? No!
“They all forsook Him and fled.” “I know not the man.” These left their scars.
So now, it is not the unbelief of My enemies that hurts, but that My friends, who love and know Me, cannot walk all the way with Me, and doubt My Power to do all that I have said.

Yea, mine own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me. Psalm 41:9

In Him Alone
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