Weapons of Social Media

Now the brother shall betray the brother to death, and the father the son; and children shall rise up against their parents, and shall cause them to be put to death. Mark 13:12

When the World Wide Web (Internet) opened up to the masses, no one probably imagined that taking something which would improve our lives would eventually become destructive, twenty-six years later.

But it has.

Social media is for some the cure-all.

Which believe it or not, it will never cure sin.

Our children and youth deserve more than being put in the hands of technology and left alone to take care of themselves.

The results are in.

Technology is not designed to raise our young.

Yet, it’s this unfortunate mindset of a percentage of parents to immediately put an iTab or smart phone in the hands of their young child, expecting to have an Einstein or Bill Gates.

In just a matter of three days, news stories about young children taking nude photos of themselves and exchanging them resonate that this is not an epidemic but a warning for responsible adults to take action to protect our young and not discard them.

Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Vine and Tumblr inventors probably never envision that what they had created for exchanging ideas and connecting with people beyond one’s borders would lead to devastating results in the lives of the demographic population segment they depend on to keep their businesses running successfully.

As a grandmother, my concern isn’t about weapons of mass destruction but rather the weapons of social media which are visible in households, schools and in the hands of our children.

The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. Luke 12:53

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

God Save the Children – The Crowns of Glory

Adult Children Brats

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:13-14

In recent years, adult children brats seem to be the new norm in some families.

Adult Children Brats can be described as selfish, arrogant, egotistical, ungrateful and emotional blackmailers.

At a certain point in one’s life, if you are a parent, your parenting duties of taking care of adult children should have ceased. That is of course, if your adult child, has special needs.

Now, I do understand that the American economy has pushed some young adults back into their parent’s homes as a way to help out until he or she gets back on their feet.

But, adult children brats are a totally different breed.

Adult children brats feed on helplessness.

You see, I believe that nine times out of ten, adult children brats were spoiled rotten when they were a child and never let go of the nipple or the hem of their mother’s garment.

I recently experience first-hand an adult child brat.

It so happened that I was visiting a school mate who has three adult children.

All of her children have flourishing careers, all are married and two of her children have blessed her and her husband with five grandchildren among them.

Now, while I was visiting my friend, we had plans to attend a fundraising fashion show and then take an early dinner.

Just as we were ready to leave her house, the phone rings.

As I stood patiently waiting at the front door for her to get off the phone, I could sense that whoever the caller was on the other line, they had taken my dear friend’s attention off our plans to get out and enjoy ourselves.

By the time my friend had hung up the phone, I had sat down and erased our plans for the day.

Without skipping a beat, my friend apologized for the delay but also profusely expressed how disappointed she was because she had to cancel attending the fashion show.

It seemed that, once again, her middle child needed her to go and pick up her children from their scheduled sports practice and gymnastic lesson.

Within ten minutes of that call, my dear friend was crying.

“This is all my fault, ” my friend told me. “Ed (not real name to protect the innocent) warned me years ago when the children were smaller that I was too overprotective and was spoiling them too much.”

Yes, I had to agree with her husband that my dear friend had always been too overprotective and she didn’t want to hear anyone tell her that giving her children everything they asked for would one day come back to bite her in her behind.

When I got up to leave, my friend again apologized for breaking another girls day out.

Nevertheless, before leaving, I couldn’t help but express my observation of how she had of course, been and is the blame for her middle child taking advantage of her every chance she allows her to do so.

Here it is in a nutshell as I know it first hand.

My dear friend cancelled her twenty-fifth wedding anniversary trip to Tahiti because this middle child, had made plans to go on an Alaskan cruise with some of her school chums.

This same middle child, accepted a position with her company that required her to travel for four days out of the week and because her husband refused to take care of their children, my dear friend stepped in and became the instant housekeeper/babysitter.

And to add insult to injury, when my dear friend was hospitalized for a hip replacement, this same middle child refused to visit her own mother…and get this. For a reason that is so unbelievable to believe.

This middle child told anyone who would listen that hospitals caused her to break out in rashes.

So, I left my dear friend to run off and pick up her grandchildren. Never mind that she could have told her middle adult child to finally take a hike!

However, my dear friend is a Christian and would never do anything to offend anyone…even when the one she loves, offends her.

That is only one example but I do have many more I could share about adult children who are brats.

Perhaps, one day, my dear friend will find the strength she needs to just say, NO! And mean it.

But her strength need not come from the flesh but the power of Christ within her.

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children — Allison Bottke

Are We Wimps or Warriors

Matthew 7:15-20 King James Version (KJV)
15 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.
16 Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?
17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit.
18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit.
19 Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire.
20 Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.

As a grandparent, I still believe in keeping abreast of what is going on in the lives of my grandchildren, especially, when it comes to their education.

About a month ago, two of my grandchildren asked my daughter to opt-out of taking the standardize test. She carefully looked into the matter, weighing the good and bad. She determined that her children were worth more than a test score. My daughter therefore granted my grandchildren request.

Living in a state where standardize testing seems to become the norm, the biggest losers of this money-making scam are not the elected officials and private for profit testing companies but the young.

Since American education has gone down considerably over the past thirty years, many want to blame the teachers for students not being prepared to work in the science, technology, engineering and math industry.

The truth of the matter is simply that it is not the teachers who should be held accountable for our children’s lack of substantive education. But, rather, it is the fault of we the people who fail to stand up against politicians who have sold us all a bill of no good when it comes to pushing standardize testing down our young people throats.

If we are investing in our children and grandchildren future, we all have just lost every dime we have put in with higher taxes.

There are some teacher unions throughout the states pushing back on this intrusion of standardize testing which is taking the spirit of learning and turning it into a warehouse conveyor belt full of failure for students from the time they enter kindergarten to when they graduate from high school.

Just as we enter a new age of learning technology, our young are being re-train to be brain-dead when it comes to free and creative thinking.

Can we tell the truth about this situation and be real that the students in America truly are becoming a lost generation, only to be in a position to work in the service industry, serving the one-percenters, who in turn, control all the power.

We who care about our future generation must ask this question.

Are we wimps or warriors?

If history is correct, this millennium is slowly reverberating into the original Gilded Age.

The difference however is that our child labor isn’t in unsafe and unregulated work mills as it was in the 1900s but rather in school districts across the nation. Child Labor

Are we wimps or warriors?

If we are wimps, then there is no need to fight for the rights of our young.

However, if we are warriors, we need to support the teacher unions who are tired of being bound by superficial standardize testing that will not reap our young the opportunities needed to be educated and contributors to society.

We can change things.

Are you a wimp or a warrior?

Over the summer, make a plan to stand for the rights of your children and grandchildren to be taught and not tested.

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

The Testing Industry Big Four are Harcourt Educational Measurement, Riverside Publishing, CTB-McGraw-Hill and NCS Pearson

Last Week Tonight with John Oliver: Standardized Testing (HBO)

The Other Woman

And Hannah prayed, and said, My heart rejoiceth in the Lord, mine horn is exalted in the Lord: my mouth is enlarged over mine enemies; because I rejoice in thy salvation.

There is none holy as the Lord: for there is none beside thee: neither is there any rock like our God.   I Samuel 2:1-2

 Mother's Day

In recognition of Mother’s Day, I want to give honor to the other woman.

The other woman is that woman who many will ignore as having no worth or value.

The other woman who you may walk pass and ignore because she may not have the right look or status.

The other woman who is working three jobs at menial wage.

The other woman who rings up our groceries and gets nothing but an attitude and a non-thank you.

The other woman who had to relinquish her dreams so that the man in her life could fulfill his.

The other woman who is in the restroom, wiping down the mess that some other woman thinks she’s too good to tend to.

The other woman who sits next to you on the bus or train who appears to be sad and broken-hearted thinking on how she can raise the bail money to get her child out of jail.

The other woman who had to give up her children because she had no job, food or housing to keep them together as a family.

The other woman who fell short morally and spiritually and wound up walking the streets as a prostitute because she found abuse within her own household meted by her father, brother and uncle.

The other woman who keeps watch of another woman’s child while hers goes un-cared for and neglected.

The other woman who is living alone, rejected and neglected from family, friends and neighbors.

The other woman who will wake up early in the morning to stand in line for food for her children, despite the harsh weather conditions and the put-down words and looks from others around her.

The other woman who has and will define the odds against those who will criticize her for the choices she has or will make in life.

The other woman who doesn’t care to be a June Cleaver, Maude or Louise Jefferson.

The other woman who is and will always be.

The other woman that Jesus called and she answered.

Hagar, Rahab, Mary Madgalene, Samaritan Woman…the other woman.

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Shirley Caesar – Everyday is like Mother’s Day

Renew Your Mind

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2

Weekend Inspiration: Renew Your Mind

There is so much taking place in the world that I feel at times people have to step back from the madness and focus on the beauty God has created for us.

We may be dealing with circumstances beyond our control. Problems that seem unsolvable and decisions that will need to be made to move us out of our comfort zone.

You may believe that you are the only one going through the rain and storms of life.

But you are not.

Just take time to be alone with God.

Remember this present situation you are dealing with will not last forever.

What can turn your situation around?

God can.

But God isn’t the only One responsible to this process.

You are too.

Try to transform the way you are seeing and reflecting on what you are dealing with.

Is it impossible to overcome?

Or are you fearful of the outcome?

    “The Bend in the Road”
Sometimes we come to life’s crossroads
And we view what we think is the end.
But God has a much wider vision
And he knows that it’s only a bend-

The road will go on and get smoother
And after we’ve stopped for a rest,
The path that lies hidden beyond us
Is often the path that is best.

So rest and relax and grow stronger,
Let go and let God share your load
And have faith in a brighter tomorrow-
You’ve just come to a bend in the road.

    Author: Helen Steiner Rice

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Erica Campbell – Help feat. Lecrae

Isaac Carree – In The Middle

Jessica Reedy – Put It On the Altar

Le’Andria Johnson – “Jesus”

Smokie Norful – I Need You Now

Yolanda Adams –The Battle Is Not Yours

Donald Lawrence –The Best Is Yet to Come Lyrics

Kirk Franklin –Declaration (This Is it)

Jonathan Nelson -My Name Is Victory

Real Love – Inspired People feat. Charles Jenkins Official Music Video

Time Out Corner be Damned

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

ORIGINAL: Angry mother beats son for participating in Baltimore riots

 

I felt a lump in my throat watching the video of the Baltimore mother Toya Graham take charge and pull her sixteen-year old son from the mayhem in the streets where teens were throwing rocks at the police.

I was cheering this woman on because she didn’t care who was watching, she was taking on the system that continually wants to interfere in how people raise their children.

Toya was so passionate and fierce as she slapped her son across the head and began pushing him away from danger and his possible injury or death.

Yes! I heard myself scream within my head. This is what black mothers know about raising our children and grandchildren.

People need to be aware that God has given us permission to raise a child in the right way. And that entails not sparing the rod to protect our children from their own naïve and reckless decisions.

When my youngest daughter attended a private daycare center, I remember her coming home one evening and sharing that one of the children had done something awful to another child. She being very concerned about the incident proceeded to tell me that because this child was acting up so badly; the teacher put the child in the “time out corner. ”

Those three words, “time out corner, ” was the first time I had ever heard of such a thing.

Later on when my two older daughters married and had their children, the time out corner had become a mainstay in the discipline of children who exhibited bad behavior.

Of course, I come from the old school that believes that if you spare the rod you will spoil a child. And when a parent spares the rod and gives their child a reward with things they don’t deserve when they step out of line. That child usually turns out to be arrogant and disrespectful to the parent.

The time out corner doesn’t put any type of fear into a child. And when I speak of fear, I mean fear of authority and also fear of the consequences as it relates to their parents.

Where the government system has gone wrong is that they have come into the homes of Americans and declared war on our parenting skills. If you need to give your child a spanking, suddenly, the state and local authorities stand ready to put you in jail and add your name to a registry that declares you to be an abusive parent.

Yes, the Baltimore mother was in her right to chastise her son to spare his life.

It is just sad to know that some watching this video will want to put Toya’s son in the time out corner and place her in jail.

Well, to you who want to do so…I say, time out corner be damned!

Stop sparing the rod, so that we can save our children!

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. Proverbs 13:24 (NIV)

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Brian Courtney Wilson – Worth Fighting For

Our Young needs a Way of Escape

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Psalm 127:3


Courtesy of NBC Philadelphia 10 News

What would possess a mother to  abandon her 21 year disabled son and then go be with her boyfriend in another state? According to news reports this mother allegedly left her quadriplegic son in a wooded area with no food and just a blanket and Bible from Monday of last week until he was discovered by a good Samaritan on Friday.

This was the news story this past weekend in Philly. My blood was boiling but then I had to keep in mind that all parents are not loving or caring.

Which brings me to remember a situation I ran into with another abusive parent.

Walking alone down the super large retailer’s aisle was relaxing. Even though the store was crowded, I just happen to be in the right section where I could not hear anything but the microphone announcing another blue light special.

Then, suddenly out of nowhere, came from this loud and aggravating voice screaming obscenities that stopped me and a few other shoppers in our track.

Looking into the direction of who and where the awful words were coming from and to whom the person was cussing out, shocked me and others.

Before I could blink an eye, this woman began shouting and slinging obscenities in the direction of those of us going down the aisle. Mind you, we all were minding our own business.

The next thing we hear is this woman screaming in our direction, “what the **** are you staring at? If you don’t want to be cussed out, you better mind your own damn business!”

Right then, I figure this woman had some mental issues. First, because she had threatened strangers who she didn’t know or probably cared to know.

Secondly, this woman was acting in this manner and knew she was dead wrong in using such foul language because we recognized that she had been cussing out her own child. A child who looked to be no more than three years of age.

The little boy appeared to be so acquainted with this horrific behavior that he just held his tiny head down and walked slowly behind this woman like a lifeless child.

To be upfront about this incident, I really wanted to slap the taste out of this woman’s mouth. But I didn’t. And I didn’t intercede on behalf of this child either. If I couldn’t do anything but report her to the store authorities, it just might have put this dreadful woman on alert. Nonetheless, I didn’t do anything.

Move the clock forward fifteen years later and I am wondering where is this child today? Was he able to find a safe haven? Or has he wounded up being hateful and bitter towards women? Or even worse, turned out to be a troubled young man or an abuser himself.

No one is aware of the answer to these questions but God, but I am praying now, that this young man found a way of escape.

After all is said and done, what I learned is that our young needs a way of escape.

I no longer look away…I act. Our young have to depend on adults who truly care and will look out for their well-being.

Christ has to be a child’s foundation. And I believe that the young man founded in the woods with his Bible knew he is loved by God and he is and he will always be.

Lastly, despite the thought of a parent abandoning and abusing their own flesh and blood…believers have to pray for them as well…for no one knows what is in the heart of man but God.

Heavenly Father,

We are praying for parents who abuse and neglect their children
We know this act of wickedness and evil is not from above
But we intercede on behalf of the abused and turn over the abuser to You too
Please Lord, save the abused children and deliver their abusers from evil.

In Jesus name we pray. Amen

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Don’t Look Away: A Child Abuse Awareness Video

Christmas with a Smile

 

Christmas-card

Today is Parable Thursday and since we are approaching Christmas, I thought it would be nice just to put a smile on some faces.

Christmas with a Smile are humorous short stories that I’m sure you will enjoy.

THE SPECIAL LETTER

It was coming up to Christmas and Sammy asked his mother if he could have a new bike. So, she told him that the best idea would be to write to Santa Claus. But John, having just played a vital role in the school nativity play, said he would prefer to write to the baby Jesus. John went to his room and wrote ‘ Dear Jesus, I have been a very good boy and would like to have a bike for Christmas.’ But he wasn’t very happy when he read it over. So he decided to try again and this time he wrote ‘Dear Jesus, I’m a good boy most of the time and would like a bike for Christmas.’ He read it back and wasn’t happy with that one either. He tried a third version. ‘Dear Jesus, I could be a good boy if I tried hard and especially if I had a new bike.’ He read that one too, but he still wasn’t satisfied. So, he decided to go out for a walk while he thought about a better approach. After a short time he passed a house with a small statue of the Virgin Mary in the front garden. He crept in, stuffed the statue under his coat, hurried home and hid it under the bed. Then he wrote this letter. ‘Dear Jesus, If you want to see your mother again, you’d better send me a new bike.’

The Elevator Ride

Just before Christmas, an honest politician, a generous lawyer and Santa Claus all got into the elevator of the hotel. As the elevator traveled from the 5th floor down to the ground level, one-by-one they noticed a $20 bill lying on the elevator’s floor. Which one picked up the $20 bill, and handed it in at reception? Santa of course, the other two don’t actually exist!

Christmas Shopping for the Wife

After being away on business for a week before Christmas, Tom thought it would be nice to bring his wife a little gift.
“How about some perfume?” he asked the cosmetics clerk.
She showed him a bottle costing $50.
“That’s a bit much,” said Tom, so she returned with a smaller bottle for $30.
“That’s still quite a bit,” Tom groused.
Growing disgusted, the clerk brought out a tiny $15 bottle.
Tom grew agitated, “What I mean,” he said, “is I’d like to see something real cheap.”
So the clerk handed him a mirror.

Can You Hear Me?

Two young boys were spending the night at their grandparents. At bedtime, the two boys knelt beside their beds to say their prayers when the youngest one began praying at the top of his lungs.
“I PRAY FOR A NEW BICYCLE…
I PRAY FOR A NEW BICYCLE…
I PRAY FOR A NEW BICYCLE…”
His older brother leaned over and nudged the younger brother and said, “Why are you shouting your prayers? God isn’t deaf.” To which the little brother replied, “No, but Gramma is!”

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Have a safe and enjoyable weekend and tell someone the true reason for the season…His name is Jesus!

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian

 

 

 

Let It Go

sick womanIn the past few weeks, I found myself surrounded by people who seem to be dealing with health issues. Of course, I recognize that some of these health problems are major and must be immediately taken into account.

But then, there are those who claim to have health problems that are just a way to get attention and sympathy.

I wonder if you know people who seem to always have some health issue?

They will whine and complain to anyone who will listen to them about how they are so sick that even the many visits to the doctor office and hospital do not seem to be of any help.

As a matter of fact, these people seem to relish in their condition and want everyone to join them. They will spew out all the prescribed medications they are taking as if this is something to be proud about.

It gets to a point that you just want to tell them, “let it go. ”

I have a family member and a few friends and acquaintances who I suspect might have a condition known as Factitious Disorder.

Factitious Disorder symptoms involve mimicking or producing illness or injury.

This is a serious mental disorder that not only encumbers someone who believes that they may have an illness or injury but also places a hardship on family members, friends and co-workers in how they should interact and deal with the person.

A few days ago, I actually witness a situation where a person I know, who has been through a major health condition but will not accept the fact that they are completely healed and can continue in having a productive life.

We hadn’t seen each other in almost a year and I was quite delighted to see this person.

However, what took me aback was that this acquaintance wanted me to feel sorry for them.

To be upfront, I just did not want to be pulled into their emotional game. Older folks have a way of telling it like it is and will let you know that they have no interest in being part of anyone’s “pity patty party. ”

What doesn’t surprise me is that Factitious Disorder is indeed prevalent in the body of Christ.

If you ever have sat in church and listened to the testimonies of some saints, you will be torn in your belief to believe either Jesus can heal or maybe He can’t.

Some of these testimonies give more credence to their “condition” and “treatment” rather than praising God for their healing.

Of course, I come to believe that the testimonies of gloom and doom are to gain sympathy, in which, in many cases, it does.

How one might directly address those we know who like to get their adrenaline peaking with the “woe is me” conversation is to be just frank and truthful.

Don’t walk away from them.

Just be calm and peaceful and tell him or her to just let it go.

You will be the best for it and God will allow you to be vindicated from feeling guilt and shame.

Let it go!
And his fame went throughout all Syria: and they brought unto him all sick people that were taken with divers diseases and torments, and those which were possessed with devils, and those which were lunatick, and those that had the palsy; and he healed them. Matthew 4:24

In Him Alone
The Counterfeit Christian

Don’t Ban The Lamb

I hadn’t thought about children rhymes in a very long time. But a friend at church who also is a co-teacher in our Children’s Sunday School handed me a copy of the nursery rhyme Mary Had A Little Lamb.

Along with the poem she gave me a couple of pages with one version of the history of this well-known children’s nursery rhyme.

When I read the story about how this simple child’s poem came about, there also seem to be considerable disagreement as to who actually was the original author, Sarah Josepha Hale or John Roulstone.

The poem, however simplistic was brought to life with music by Lowell Mason.

After taking the time to read Mary Had A Little Lamb and singing and humming the song to myself, I realized that this poem is prophetic based on what Christian students are dealing with today in our public schools.

Here is the famous Mary Had A Little Lamb poem:

Mary had a little lamb,
His fleece was white as snow,
And everywhere that Mary went,
The lamb was sure to go.

He followed her to school one day,
Which was against the rule,
It made the children laugh and play
To see a lamb at school.

And so the teacher turned it out,
But still it lingered near,
And waited patiently about,
Till Mary did appear.

“Why does the lamb love Mary so?”
The eager children cry.
“Why, Mary loves the lamb, you know.”
The teacher did reply.

If you will just use your imagination and examine the Lamb, you will notice that He brings Mary comfort, protection and joy. Now, it appears that He doesn’t want Mary to go anywhere without Him. So he stays with Mary. And everywhere Mary goes He is sure to go. He even follows her to school which is against the rule. He will even make the other school children laugh and play to see Him at school.

This rhyme truly fits into what Christians are going through today, right here in America. The name of Jesus and the word Christmas seem to get more children expelled than ever before. And with school having already started, we might be more concern about the spiritual health of our children before sending them off to school.

One thing Christian parents shouldn’t do is don’t ban the Lamb.In or out of school. Pray with and for your child everyday.

Just ask yourself this question. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to see the Lamb accepted in school? The Lamb of God.

The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.   John 1:29

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian