Adult Children Brats

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Proverbs 23:13-14

In recent years, adult children brats seem to be the new norm in some families.

Adult Children Brats can be described as selfish, arrogant, egotistical, ungrateful and emotional blackmailers.

At a certain point in one’s life, if you are a parent, your parenting duties of taking care of adult children should have ceased. That is of course, if your adult child, has special needs.

Now, I do understand that the American economy has pushed some young adults back into their parent’s homes as a way to help out until he or she gets back on their feet.

But, adult children brats are a totally different breed.

Adult children brats feed on helplessness.

You see, I believe that nine times out of ten, adult children brats were spoiled rotten when they were a child and never let go of the nipple or the hem of their mother’s garment.

I recently experience first-hand an adult child brat.

It so happened that I was visiting a school mate who has three adult children.

All of her children have flourishing careers, all are married and two of her children have blessed her and her husband with five grandchildren among them.

Now, while I was visiting my friend, we had plans to attend a fundraising fashion show and then take an early dinner.

Just as we were ready to leave her house, the phone rings.

As I stood patiently waiting at the front door for her to get off the phone, I could sense that whoever the caller was on the other line, they had taken my dear friend’s attention off our plans to get out and enjoy ourselves.

By the time my friend had hung up the phone, I had sat down and erased our plans for the day.

Without skipping a beat, my friend apologized for the delay but also profusely expressed how disappointed she was because she had to cancel attending the fashion show.

It seemed that, once again, her middle child needed her to go and pick up her children from their scheduled sports practice and gymnastic lesson.

Within ten minutes of that call, my dear friend was crying.

“This is all my fault, ” my friend told me. “Ed (not real name to protect the innocent) warned me years ago when the children were smaller that I was too overprotective and was spoiling them too much.”

Yes, I had to agree with her husband that my dear friend had always been too overprotective and she didn’t want to hear anyone tell her that giving her children everything they asked for would one day come back to bite her in her behind.

When I got up to leave, my friend again apologized for breaking another girls day out.

Nevertheless, before leaving, I couldn’t help but express my observation of how she had of course, been and is the blame for her middle child taking advantage of her every chance she allows her to do so.

Here it is in a nutshell as I know it first hand.

My dear friend cancelled her twenty-fifth wedding anniversary trip to Tahiti because this middle child, had made plans to go on an Alaskan cruise with some of her school chums.

This same middle child, accepted a position with her company that required her to travel for four days out of the week and because her husband refused to take care of their children, my dear friend stepped in and became the instant housekeeper/babysitter.

And to add insult to injury, when my dear friend was hospitalized for a hip replacement, this same middle child refused to visit her own mother…and get this. For a reason that is so unbelievable to believe.

This middle child told anyone who would listen that hospitals caused her to break out in rashes.

So, I left my dear friend to run off and pick up her grandchildren. Never mind that she could have told her middle adult child to finally take a hike!

However, my dear friend is a Christian and would never do anything to offend anyone…even when the one she loves, offends her.

That is only one example but I do have many more I could share about adult children who are brats.

Perhaps, one day, my dear friend will find the strength she needs to just say, NO! And mean it.

But her strength need not come from the flesh but the power of Christ within her.

In Him Alone

The Counterfeit Christian
2015 The Year of Our Lord

Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children — Allison Bottke